I love micromanaging
“I love micromanaging” said no one ever. Why do we think that anyone wants to micro manage? Micro managers generally worry all hours of the day and night. Who wants that? Not me, and not that person you get so frustrated with.
When I googled micromanagement, the articles I found placed responsibility on the shoulders of the leader. Not so. Responsibility is shared – like it is in all relationships.
Yes it’s easier to blame the boss, or client, or whoever than try to solve this but blame is an insidious beast. It eats away self respect and says to our inner selves “I have no power”, “I have no worth”. With sufficient repetition we will believe this folly and will act accordingly.
If you want to release the pressure, grab a mirror and ask yourself (daily) these questions:
- “What am I doing that makes my Boss (or client, or other) fear I won’t perform?”
- “What is one thing can I do today that will increase his/her confidence in me?”
- “What will I commit to do everyday … without fail … that will gradually replace that fear with trust?”
I am not saying this is easy, their fear may be hard to find, but acting on these questions WILL stop micromanagement when you use patience, good humour, and self awareness. Great leaders have these qualities. Do you?
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